SCENE 1:
I had a breakthrough yesterday....A guy friend of mine told a close girl-friend of mine that he liked her and wanted to go out with her....okay he was a little drunk but he knew what he was talking about and he knew that she already had a boyfriend and is pretty stuck on him...but even then he had the guts to tell her that he liked her even though he knew nothing would happen.....I have never interacted much with this guy-friend of mine...but only in the last few days he has been going through certain personal problems and I am just a person trying to help him out....we are becoming good friends now....
Anyway, the girl obviously said that its very gut-full and brave of him to come up and say this to her..but she can't do anything about it because she already likes somebody else.....
a broken heart.. but the guy gracefully backed out and now him and the girl are back on good terms friendship wise....a fight broke out between him and another guy after a few minutes on a different issue...but it was only an argument and finished soon...
SCENE 2:
Another broken heart roams around the streets of Aurangabad-drunk....A 1st year student of our college..a boy who apparently broke up with a 3rd year student came back drunk to the hostel today...got into an argument with his seniors in the hostel...the argument turned into an ugly fight...and now the boy is fighting for his life in the ICU in a nearby hospital...the seniors apparently hit him with wood sticks on his head and bashed him up completely...these seniors were the 2nd year boys...and when the 1st yr boys saw the 2nd yrs hitting a 1st yr boy, they all got angry and attacked the 2nd yrs with chairs, chains and their functioning body parts.....
The boys hostel was shaking ....screams, roars, cries, curses ...all flying around and we girls in our hostels could see some of it as the boys hostel is just next to us....
For 3 whole hours we didn't know what to do and what to say...we started calling our friends in the boys hostel...they started calling us...news started to spread ..about that drunk guy...the seniors...the wooden sticks...and all we could do was stare outside the windows from our washrooms and pantry's...I in particular was sitting on a sink and seeing out through a small semi-broken window and saw when the principal came in the hostel in his car and when he left and what other faculty was present in the boys hostel etc etc.....
All my friends were thankfully not hurt...they all fought initially but later locked themselves in their rooms....and kept looking out from the windows itself....the situation refused to simmer down....
Its 4:30 in the morning now and I am still awake....the situation now has thankfully calmed down...the 2nd yrs have been shifted from the hostel and the principal is still speaking to the first yrs...thanks to the guy mentioned in scene 1 that I know all this....
I can barely open my eyes...I have a practical class at 9:30 in the morning...but I can't stop wondering about the 2 situations...both the guys were little drunk..in both the cases a fight broke out....look what happened in situation 1 and look what happened in situation 2....
The drunk guy who got beat up in scene 2 has apparently hurt himself badly above his left eye and nose...he is in the ICU and his mom has been called to Aurangabad from the first flight tomorrow.....
I pity him...why did he have to answer back the 2nd yr senior in the first place...why did the senior have to hit him that badly knowing that he is drunk....questions better left unanswered I think......
I had a breakthrough yesterday....A guy friend of mine told a close girl-friend of mine that he liked her and wanted to go out with her....okay he was a little drunk but he knew what he was talking about and he knew that she already had a boyfriend and is pretty stuck on him...but even then he had the guts to tell her that he liked her even though he knew nothing would happen.....I have never interacted much with this guy-friend of mine...but only in the last few days he has been going through certain personal problems and I am just a person trying to help him out....we are becoming good friends now....
Anyway, the girl obviously said that its very gut-full and brave of him to come up and say this to her..but she can't do anything about it because she already likes somebody else.....
a broken heart.. but the guy gracefully backed out and now him and the girl are back on good terms friendship wise....a fight broke out between him and another guy after a few minutes on a different issue...but it was only an argument and finished soon...
SCENE 2:
Another broken heart roams around the streets of Aurangabad-drunk....A 1st year student of our college..a boy who apparently broke up with a 3rd year student came back drunk to the hostel today...got into an argument with his seniors in the hostel...the argument turned into an ugly fight...and now the boy is fighting for his life in the ICU in a nearby hospital...the seniors apparently hit him with wood sticks on his head and bashed him up completely...these seniors were the 2nd year boys...and when the 1st yr boys saw the 2nd yrs hitting a 1st yr boy, they all got angry and attacked the 2nd yrs with chairs, chains and their functioning body parts.....
The boys hostel was shaking ....screams, roars, cries, curses ...all flying around and we girls in our hostels could see some of it as the boys hostel is just next to us....
For 3 whole hours we didn't know what to do and what to say...we started calling our friends in the boys hostel...they started calling us...news started to spread ..about that drunk guy...the seniors...the wooden sticks...and all we could do was stare outside the windows from our washrooms and pantry's...I in particular was sitting on a sink and seeing out through a small semi-broken window and saw when the principal came in the hostel in his car and when he left and what other faculty was present in the boys hostel etc etc.....
All my friends were thankfully not hurt...they all fought initially but later locked themselves in their rooms....and kept looking out from the windows itself....the situation refused to simmer down....
Its 4:30 in the morning now and I am still awake....the situation now has thankfully calmed down...the 2nd yrs have been shifted from the hostel and the principal is still speaking to the first yrs...thanks to the guy mentioned in scene 1 that I know all this....
I can barely open my eyes...I have a practical class at 9:30 in the morning...but I can't stop wondering about the 2 situations...both the guys were little drunk..in both the cases a fight broke out....look what happened in situation 1 and look what happened in situation 2....
The drunk guy who got beat up in scene 2 has apparently hurt himself badly above his left eye and nose...he is in the ICU and his mom has been called to Aurangabad from the first flight tomorrow.....
I pity him...why did he have to answer back the 2nd yr senior in the first place...why did the senior have to hit him that badly knowing that he is drunk....questions better left unanswered I think......
Hi Shagun!
ReplyDeleteMy God... quite an alarming situation!
Can't believe it!
Hope the boy in the ICU is better now!... Sometimes, being in the 'hostel'.. away from 'home' can become stressful.
If he'd have gone 'home' after college - I doubt he would've got soooo drunk - and then, get into such a bad fight!
Did you manage to catch some sleep after that?
Hope your day went off O.K.
Hope you are not going to let it play on your mind too much as you say the Scene 1 boy is now a 'friend'... Don't let things upset you too much! ( If... you were 'my' baby.. do you know... there's a lot more I'd like you to 'learn' from this 'incident'... because as a 'mature' person... I can 'see' things from a perspective that you are still to develop... but I wouldn't want to appear 'patronizing' - as if, you know any less... nor do I wish to sound like I'm 'lecturing'..but you know, Shagun, as we'd discussed somewhere before .. EVERYTHING 'happens' for a REASON... and sometimes.. things that 'happen' in your life or 'around' you... do 'teach' you something 'new'... about 'life' and 'living'... and believe it or not - AAALLLL OF 'LIFE' IS SUCH A 'LEARNING' PROCESS FOR EVERYBODY.. only difference is HOW MANY of us.. take it as a 'positive' thing and 'learn' the 'lessons' life teaches us... and how many... let things pass by without 'pondering' over its 'significance'! Its a GOOD thing when you 'talk' about something... because it means you are also, WILLING.. to 'explore'... what lies 'beneath'... the 'seemingly-stray' incident!So, in case you'd ... LIKE.. to hear what I'd like YOU to know... pls let me know.. I'd be more than 'happy' to SHARE... my 'views'.. regarding a 'deeper' understanding, sweetheart... which will, hopefully, bring more calm and assurance 'within' you, instead of 'baffling' you..)
With love..
Take care, sweetie-pie!
i would love to know what more do you think..thats the reason why i started this blog...
ReplyDeleteThat's good, Shagun..
ReplyDeleteSo, have you noticed, the question, that has popped up in your head at the end of the 'saga'? Its a, WHY?...
And, if you'll think about it carefully,in most instances in 'LIFE'.. THAT is always the BIG QUESTION.. WHY?
WHY... me/us?.. 'I love you'-WHY?.. I don't/won't/can't love you- WHY?.. I'll be coming home late today -WHY? I won't be able to make it to the party tonight- WHY?
The most important thing after - 'LOVE' in 'life' is... 'knowing' the 'answer' to this 'integral' question of 'existence'- "WHY"!!
And, HOW would you know the 'answer'?!!
BY being 'HONEST' with yourself!!
Keep 'digging' within, till you hit it or are 'sure' of it! Because, knowing the answer 'empowers' you! HOW? - BY providing 'CLARITY'!
Once you are 'CLEAR' about something - it HELPS you to become 'FOCUSED' and 'SURE' of EVERY move you make, every word you utter and everything you say to the 'other' or do, in your life! - YOU 'SUCCEED'- with 'CLARITY'!!
e.g. In Scene 1 - when the boy 'confessed' his 'love' your 'girl-friend' was 'CLEAR'-'WHY' she could never 'reciprocate' his feelings! - So, 'CLARITY' HELPED her -to re-affirm her commitment to her 'current' boy-friend and at the same time the 'CLARITY' HELPED the boy -to know WHY, she wouldn't go out with him! And, most important thing is - your 'girl-friend' was 'HONEST' about her 'feelings'and when it comes to 'relationships' -that, Shagun, is a very, very important aspect of 'life'! Being 'HONEST' to self and the 'other'!
Now, the second important thing about 'feelings' and 'relationships'- ACCEPTANCE and REJECTION.
Shagun, we all want to be loved/ desired i.e. be 'accepted' for us to 'feel' we are "WORTHY" CREATURES!! 'Worthy' of attention/ affection/ care/ consideration etc. and the reverse - actually - causes (PHYSICAL) PAIN,HURT (the 'heart'-truly-literally -'aches'!!!)to feel,think,we are 'UN-WORTHY"??!!
And, so 'REJECTION'is really, really - physically... 'painful' thing!!
Would you believe it? In today's "Times of India" Newspaper on page 21, there's an article - that its been 'scientifically PROVED that 'Pain of rejection is almost physical'!! :)
In fact... check out this link, too, http://abclocal.go.com/wls/story?section=news/health&id=8041652
'Girls' are not as 'aggressive' as guys,so when we get 'rejected' in 'love/crush/ infatuation etc.' we reach out for our 'friends' to 'cry' our hearts out and then munch on chocolates or pastries and watch romantic, soppy movies (..Hahahaha)
But, guys, you see,in Scene 1 - SMALL rejection- small 'fight' - and he got his 'aggression' out.
Scene 2 - Already going 'steady' - already a 'couple'.. sooooo many feelings and emotions 'SHARED'and 'MEMORIES' made. Break-up?!! - OOOOooooh, TOUGH!! BIG rejection - BIG fight!!
So, Shagun.. must remember, when it comes to YOUR OWN 'feelings' or another person's 'feelings' always be 'CLEAR' on the question of 'WHY'. So that you can have an 'amicable' - dialogue - DISCUSS - COMMUNICATE - openly and HONESTLY. So that you cause yourself no hurt and the 'other' too, is able to 'understand' the most important question- 'WHY'!!
That's all for now, sweetheart.... :)
Have a good evening! :)
P.S.: Enjoy the Indo-Pak.. match! Its going great till now... :)